Have you ever had to ask someone to forgive you?

  Has anyone ever asked you to forgive him or her?

  Which was hardest for you to do?

      Perhaps there have been times in your life when you had to do both. Coming to grips with the fact that you have wronged someone is not a good feeling. Most of us dont have a problem asking someone to forgive us when we know we have done wrong. The challenge is forgiving others. We know God has told us to forgive those who sin against us. However, this is not easy when the wrong that was done hurts us deeply and the one, who did it, is not trying to apologize. In their minds, they feel justified for their actions. They blame you for their wrong doings. Examples: (If, you had not done that, then I wouldn't have; If, you would just do what I say). They argue their point repeatedly, until YOU end up apologizing. "But they did you wrong".

     Under these circumstances asking him or her to forgive us, leave you with a very bad spirit inside. We feel as if we have lowered ourselves in some manner. When we depart from them, it is with a feeling of less than or pitifulness. But to keep the peace and prevent them from becoming even more upset, we give in. "But they did you wrong!"

     This is another example of how we allow the actions of others to dictate our responds. We have placed them at the center of our concerns and now they are in control. If we stand up to them, it only creates more problems. So, what can we do to end all this?

     The only true solutions are to forgive them for doing you wrong and move on. Harboring ill feeling or arguing with anyone over who's right and who's wrong, only slows you down and keeps you locked in the pass. Let go and let God handle the judging of people.

     It is not difficult forgiving someone who shows a genuine feeling of remorse and is seeking to repent for his or her wrong. What's hard is forgiving someone who demonstrates an air of arrogance and denies being at fault for anything.

     Nevertheless, we must let go and forgive so we can be freed in our spirit. Holding on holds you back, and does not allow God to move you forward into the spiritual ream of healing.

     Letting go and letting God be at the center of our life allows Him to dictate our responds and actions toward others. At this point in your life the important thing is not who did you wrong, but what can help you move pass it.

"A closer relationship with Christ".